I am using the most recent cb release with most recent joomla release.
Please be sure in the future to provide exact release numbers. Most recent is not helpful as often a users most recent is not the most recent.
Specifically looking to get the options to add facebook and other social media info to contact tab, does the ording make a difference?
I assume you mean the CB Connect fields. If so that's not how they work. They have no frontend edit display. You need to use the sign in or link buttons in your CB Login module. If it allowed anyone to put any ID they wanted it'd be a vulnerability, which is why it doesn't allow you to do that.